Posts Tagged ‘parenting’

I miss my darling Nate. A few minutes ago, he shouted, “I love you Nonna, bye” in such a clear voice that all I was able  to say  was, “I love you too baby, take care”. Such is our exchange  over the phone that I wanted to call him back  to hear his voice again.

While we were at church today, there were lots of kids around Nate’s age and I was so surprised how behaved they were when the mass started. There was  this mother and a new-born daughter  right in front of us (a family of one of the lectors/commentators)  and I can’t help but remember those days when Nate was just a  baby and I wrote about every development in his young life accompanied by lots of pictures on my phone and on my camera. Josef even bought a video cam when Nate was born.  This tiny tot will hold our hearts forever.

Moments like this always makes me nostalgic, remembering those times when the kids were growing up. I still keep their notes, letters and drawings  in a shoe box that I lined with recycled Christmas wrappers and lovingly arranged together with their school recognition awards /certificates and medals. They were both achievers and  they made me proud.  Josef was an honors student until high school while Nissa maintained it until she graduated from college. I remember that time one of her professors called me up at home (I was retired by then) and excitedly shared the news that the deliberation for graduating honors students was over and Nissa garnered the highest Latin honors in her batch and graduated Magna Cum Laude. For a parent, it was  a dream come true,  an ultimate reward for all the sacrifices  and the sleepless nights worrying about the days they came home late from school. The three of us all graduated from UST, three alumni who embraced a Catholic education.  I couldn’t be prouder than most moms out there,  I was the proudest mom when we came up the stage to award her with a silver medal embossed with the  seal of the university and her name engraved at the back.  Even her transcript of records were written, “Graduated Magna Cum Laude”.  I remember Mom and Dad’s smiles when we came home and Nissa lovingly placed her medal on Dad’s neck and said to them both that it was for them too. Mom cried and dad was teary-eyed.  When she graduated from her management training at the bank where I used to work, it was my turn to cry with such joy and happiness.

The joys of parenting. The pride you feel when your kids grow up as responsible adults.  I am praying that someday, Nate would be as  smart her mom.


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Congratulations on getting 20 total follows on Our Precious Bundle of Joy.

Just got this message from WordPress, thank you very much. It’s my latest blog dedicated to my first grandson Nate which I started a month ago. To all my regular readers and visitors here at Dreams and Escapes, thank you too for appreciating my new blog and leaving your comments at the site.

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A lot of people I meet casually always ask why I retired from work early. They are curious how I spend my time staying at home. Gosh, it’s exactly  eleven years now since I availed of an early retirement and left Bank of the Philippine Islands for good. How time flies! You don’t need to reach the normal retirement age of sixty before enjoying life without the routine of a nine to five job. Sometimes in one’s life, you need to make a  major decision that would benefit the whole family better. The kids are always the foremost consideration. Of course, two breadwinners in the family are always the ideal set-up, but you can never compromise anything when it comes to your kids’ welfare and well-being.

You could not deny that during the first few years, there are times when you think of the life you left behind, your office mates, some of whom became close friends too, your demanding boss who would always reminds you that you could do your best in any situation as long as your heart is in it.  What I miss were those early morning walks going  to Greenbelt and attending the early morning mass at the Greenbelt chapel, the lunch break walk from the bank to the Ayala Center, the occasional night-outs with office mates, the community we have formed while carpooling with friends. Hmm, simple though they may seem, they were part of my daily routine for more than twenty-one years. The corporate look  became jeans and t-shirts, closed shoes were changed into Happy Feet and Havaianas slippers, pen and pencils were replaced by  pruning shears and shovels, and the wide corridors and office of the bank is now a garden with a small pond.

Being hands-on in taking care of the kids is the most rewarding experience when you are a stay-at-home mom.  We have this what we call power moments too. You can budget your time the way you want it, which is a bonus because you have all the time to pursue some hobbies that you’ve wanted to do. You have the luxury of experimenting in the kitchen, or reading all the books you’ve stashed for so many years but have no time to even open the first page.  You have time to be alone with your thoughts and just enjoy the passing hours and minutes of trying to be productive in your writing. You can get in touch with friends any time you want.

Some people think of retirement as something to be afraid of.  The usual question is, “what will I do at home?” My goodness, there  are more jobs of a full-time mom than an employee in the corporate world. And you are doing it gratis for your family. What could be nobler than that? Be proud, be proud of it.

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