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I was about to call my brother to ask about Mom’s plan for her 87th birthday when  a familiar car stopped near our gate and our three dogs got crazy barking when they saw it.

They’re here. I mean mom is here. I haven’t seen her since her last birthday.  She’s  a bit thin compared to last year and she said that every day, she is busy raking  leaves in our garden at home.  They brought a big box of assorted veggies and I was delighted to see sweet potatoes.  It’s her birthday next week but she wants to hold a simple celebration on a weekend  so she could see Nate and her other grandchildren.  Yesterday, Nissa  gave her phone to Nate so she could hear his  voice. Since she is hard of hearing you could hear her voice load and clear  and she smiled when Nate shouted “hello Nanay, I love you”.   I could hear Nate’s voice shouting at the other end. My kids and my nephews and nieces call her Nanay.

Early this morning, I asked her if she wants something lukewarm for her bath.  She thought for a moment then blurted out, “Martes ngayon” (it’s Tuesday) at the same time shaking her head.  I wonder what being a Tuesday got to do with taking a bath.  Ah, the old times and fallacies that they cling to until now. It suddenly dawned on me that my grandmother didn’t like taking a bath too  on Tuesdays and Fridays nor cutting her nails on the same days.

You can’t argue with an 87-year old right? I love her just the same.

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“How many times will we celebrate my birthday?” Mom asked me earlier today.

I told her, it is okay to celebrate it again with her favorite desserts and another cake. The other Sunday, we already celebrated her birthday in advance thinking that my brother would fetch her any day soon but it took two weeks more before my brother could schedule a day convenient to  him. She will be going home tomorrow after almost two months with us.  She was clapping her hands when she saw me making one of her favorite desserts, a yummy buko salad.  Josef’s girlfriend gifted her with another cake and lots of  baon for tomorrow. She loves munching on peanuts and cornik while playing her favorite card game.

I  was forced to watch afternoon television when she learned of the channel that shows nonstop Tagalog movies. There is an unspoken agreement between us that at the strike of 3pm,  she positions herself in front of the television to watch feature presentation. Since she is hard of hearing, the sound has to be a little loud. Sometimes she laughs and shouts and enjoys the stories shown there. I will definitely miss her. She has this habit of rubbing my back while we are seated together watching.  At times, I have to repeat words so she could understand but that’s okay too. I could not imagine how it is that you  can hear sounds but you can’t understand.

Two days more to go.

HAPPY  86th BIRTHDAY MOMMY! You are a shining star in my sometimes bleak world.

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I think Mom just gets bored playing solitaire so I opened the television early for her to watch but then she insists that I should switch it on at 5pm because that is when she starts watching her favorite programs. I am not really into it but I take a glimpse of each program she watches every day until she falls asleep.

Earlier on I was cooking dinner and she was watching.  Not for lack on what to do, I imitated a television ad by doing a few odd steps while watching the girls dance. She could not hide her mirth and I  knew she was smiling while covering her face with her two hands.  I smiled at her and embraced her on my way to check  the pork afritada  I was cooking for dinner. She said in our native dialect, “Oh, I seldom see you dance”. We looked into each other’s eyes and smiled.

What a nice feeling, going back to just being  a daughter sometimes. She’s happy, I am too 🙂

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The other night we just had dinner when Mom got my eyeglasses, perched it on her nose and said “lumalabo na paningin ko” meaning that her eyesight is getting poor. I laughed not because of what she said but she clearly forgot that she was wearing her own pair. So I told her that was mine, she looked at me, smiled and said, “sinusubukan ko lang, nawawala yung salamin ko” (she is just trying if it fits because hers is missing….hahaha). I removed both pairs from her eyes and told her that she was wearing it all along. She scratched her head and said sometimes she becomes forgetful.

She is temporarily staying with us, haven’t seen her for the last six months and my younger brother brought her here last Sunday. She insists she’s not yet “ulyanin” (loosely translated that means having Alzheimer’s disease….seriously). She is turning 86 in two months. I suggested that she stay with us for a few months but she insisted that she won’t be able to exercise when she is here.  In her language, exercise means sweeping the yard of endless dried leaves every morning, playing cards with some of our older relatives, planting some vegetables near the house, walking around our place in the province to look at what tree is bearing fruit  or what should need trimming.

Sometimes I wonder, I’d be so much blessed if I could reach her age still hale and hearty with just joint pains and sometimes elevated blood pressure. My brother said as long as she eats well, there is nothing to worry about.

Oh, she still watches  her precious evening soap operas on television 🙂  As she is short of hearing (her right ear can’t distinguish sounds now)  I have to set it a little louder for her to hear.

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Mom is still with us and she can’t wait to go home to the province to tend her garden.  She spends most of her time here watching her favorite soap programs and playing solitaire. She’s not much into cooking, she said I cook better than she does. Well, one thing I love about her is, she is so appreciative of what I prepare  in the kitchen, whether it is a simple meal or an elaborate dish for special occasions. This afternoon, she watched me prepare puto,  a steamed rice cake similar to English muffins. I did a little variation though, instead of just plain puto mix, sugar, eggs and oil, I added a cup of evaporated milk for that rich and creamy texture and Mom loved it. She said, it is better than those she has tasted before. I just smiled when she uttered “mananam”. In our dialect, that means yummy. It’s nice paired with a hot cup of decaf coffee. puto

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I caught Mom staring intently in front of the mirror, examining her face  and turning her head this  way and that.  Our eyes met. We laughed.

The lines on her face show wisdom acquired with age. Last night when we learned of Dolphy’s passing on, she said “magka-edad lang pala kami“.  She just turned 83 two months ago, almost a year  younger than Dolphy.  Growing older does not mean that you have lost opportunities that come  with being young. Growing older means savoring the gifts that life brings every day and enjoying life to the fullest.  One is never old enough to say “ah, ice cream is better than coffee.”

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Mom was watching an afternoon soap  (telenovela) while I was making a hot cup of coffee  and I heard  this conversation:

“Dapat pag mahal mo, ipinaglalaban mo, pero di pala ganun kadali yun, dapat pag mahal mo, ipinaglalaban ka rin.”

Loosely translated it means, “If you love him, you’ll fight for him but it’s hard to do it because if you love him, he should and he will also fight for you.”

So I asked, “Meron pa bang ganuong mga lalaki ngayon?” (Meaning one in a dozen, you won’t find a guy like that). Without batting an eyelash, she answered, “martyr”.

That’s mom….straight to the point 🙂

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