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Grief doesn’t end at the loss of the person you love. It grips you like a tight knot, the more you remember those days of old – the laughter and the tears.

At Maxine by the Sea with sis-in-law, niece and my brother Alden. Taken three years ago before we discovered he had cancer.

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Last week I received this sad news that our neighbor and friend in Kamuning before passed on. The family live in Australia. Mama Julian was 98.

I remember those days with fondness when we were living in the same place and the same compound. Almost every night, Mama Julian would bring his ukulele to our place and dad his guitar. They would play music together and I would just listen. They could pick chords of several songs without even looking at anything. During lazy days, the four of them – my mom, Nana Mina, Mama Julian and Dad would play cards called Entre Siete in our place. Mama Julian and dad would partner together and they had this what they call dentoy, movement of their heads, sway of their hands and other such nuances which they do together to let each other know what cards he had. Nana Mina and mom could not defeat them. Mama Julian was the godfather of my youngest brother.

His youngest daughter told me this: Arlene, I felt warmed when I hear these very precious moments in the life of your dad and mine. I remember these too.

She said further that truth be told, your Dad was the only true and loyal friend to tatay. He’ll have his memorial service on Sunday via Zoom and that happens to be Dad’s 100th birthday.

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My head is full at the moment thinking of events in our lives.

Getting lost here. I thought today is Friday. Had to take a look twice at my cellphone….crazy.

My head is full at the moment thinking of events happening in our lives. Sad to say, my mom’s older sister died the other day. She was 99. My brothers and I are in a quandary whether to tell mom or not. She might not be able to understand that Covid is preventing us to go there because we are on a lockdown. 65 up are not allowed to go out. Mom’s sense of hearing is practically nil. My eldest brother suggested that we just tell her after the burial.

We could not even visit Alden. My aunt and Alden’s family are in the same barangay in our province.

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Let me see, I wrote a short post three days ago and some things happened since then.

I lost a first cousin three days ago due to a lingering illness. Thank God it was not Covid. Since I could not go home to our province, I just have to write a few words for my grandnieces/grandsons/wife as a way of paying tribute and respect.

Nissa told me earlier today that one of her officemates died of Covid recently. She was just 41 years old. She took a sick leave last week because of fever. This traitor pandemic is like a thief in the night. Although Nissa’s department has no personal contact with her, I told her that they should all take necessary precautions.

The Philippines sad to say has no vaccines yet. This government is inutile when it comes to the welfare of the people. Why are they demonstrating simulations when they still don’t have vaccines? They ordered from china but the people don’t want it. They are relying on the poor population to accept it. Grrrr….😷🤒🤕

Some of duterte’s men in Malacanang have already been vaccinated as early as September last year. On the other side though, I am not so enthusiastic about being vaccinated, this is just on the experimental stage. It would probably take years before it is safe enough and that it could help in preventing Covid 19. A Filipino overseas worker had his vaccination in Saudi Arabia but when he came home for vacation in the Philippines, he was found positive of the virus.

Four more days and February will be gone. Before you know it, summer is here.

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It  pains me that August would end on a sad note.  Even if you have accepted that we  would all grow old and eventually will leave this world, it is always sad to learn of someone dear to you pass on.  I just received a message that one of my aunts (Mom’s oldest sister) died last night. She was 96.  She was bedridden for so long that it surely is a blessing for her to rest at last with the Lord.  I will always remember those days when she would bring their farm’s produce when I go home for vacation.  I will always remember those days when she would allow us (her nieces and nephews) to  get what we like in her small sari-sari store when we were kids.  The memories linger and I feel sad that she passed on. It is always sad and touching to hear and see a loved one die.

Tomorrow starts the BER months which most of us Filipinos always look forward to. No matter how hard life is, there is that inner thrill that Christmas would not be far behind.  It’s my favorite season of the year. Do I hear Christmas songs in the air? I have a friend who said that for her, every day is Christmas. Every day is something she looks forward to. Every day is a day of giving, not necessarily materials things but of time and yourself to others. Just listening to a friend, talking to your kids about anything under the sun, helping other people in your own simple way is a way of giving.

August has been a quiet month but with all those thunderstorms almost every day. Except for that time my high school friends surprised me with a visit, it was just the family and me together.  September is inching its way  and I hope it would be a lovely and productive month for us all.

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