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Yes, it’s been almost forty- six years. We met for the first time back in 1973 when I reported to work as student librarian at the University of Santo Tomas. We both worked at the university library until I was in my third year as Economics major and she finished her Library Science degree.

The friendship has come to a point when we would write each other daily on date due slips of the library.  She was Nissa’s godmother during her baptism and again one of the principal sponsors during Nissa’s wedding. She migrated to Canada sometime in 2001.

The last time we saw each other was almost eight years ago until yesterday. A happy reunion between friends, a lovely tête-à-tête updating each other on what’s happening in our lives, non-stop smiles and laughter. Her husband showed me their photos when they were in Japan before coming to Manila a week ago.

And a happy reunion would not be complete without some photos, right? Although Mark took photos of Grace and me, I had a couple of shots in my phone taken by one employee of the hotel where they stayed.

Mark, Grace and I

She gave me two books, a copy of Thomas Merton’s The Seven Storey Mountain and a trade paperback of Maya  Angelou’s The Heart of A Woman. We developed our love for books when we were both assigned at the Humanities Section of the UST Main Library. Can’t wait to read these two.

Grace and me2

Friendship is a lovely thing. When you find true friends, being apart for so many years doesn’t really matter. It feels as if you’ve seen each other only yesterday.

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Yesterday, I saw several pictures on Facebook posted by my youngest brother. He was looking for photos  that he could make into a video as a tribute to Dad’s 97th birthday on January 16. Yes, if he were alive today, he will be turning 97.

He saw some photos of us and his godfather, our family friend Mama Julian and he posted them. That began our long conversation and exchange of  comments, reminiscing about the past and those days we were growing up. Mama Julian was our neighbor and dad’s best friend.  His children who are now living abroad noticed his post and they also joined in our chats.

Dad is the one in white shirt. This was taken almost fifteen years ago, April 2004 if I am not mistaken.

We reminisced on how they spent their days when we were in high school. Dad played the guitar and Mama Julian with his ukulele. They would compose music together and play to us kids. We talked about those days when they would play cards together with mom and Nana Mina (his wife) called Entre 7.  We remember those days when  in every fiesta in our place in the province, both of them would always act as emcees of the night’s programs. There was really no dull moment when they were around together.

One of Mama Julian’s daughters said that she would copy all those photos and would show them to him being sure that he would be glad to see them.  He is also in his nineties now and living in Brisbane with some members of the family. Dad and Nana Mina are now with the Lord.

It is nice to get in touch with friends and neighbors again after so many years. Back then, when we were growing up, they were like our extended family. Most of them including my brother are now living abroad and have their own families. One daughter  is married to my first cousin.

When friends meet, hearts warm.

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Wow, what a blessed day!

I spent a lovely few hours with Odette, a close friend who came over this morning to give me these lovely birthday gifts, the Devotions book of poems by Mary Oliver and my fave author Richard Paul Evans’ book called The Noel Diary. 

She called me up yesterday and she said that she is coming today to visit me. We haven’t seen each other for more than a year  now although we get in touch regularly through Facebook.  We had  lunch here at home and a bit of “kuwentuhan”.

This is the fourth book of Mary Oliver that she gave me. I have several books by Richard Paul Evans but I don’t have this one yet….well, until today. Gosh, what a joy to see her again.

This thick hardbound book of Mary Oliver contains so many of her poems taken from  several of her previously published books.  Can’t wait to read it. It is not that kind of book that you read though just once, it is meant to be savored  and admired. Her words are just so lovely.

It is indeed a blessing to have friends who love the same things that you do.

 

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This is actually a re-blog.  Something I wrote when I was just starting to blog here. I love the idea of what real friendship brings. I don’t  think we really need a test when it comes to real friendship.

Friendship goes a long, long way though, you would somehow feel, deep in your heart if a friend is real or not.  You may lose touch, going separate ways and alleys, embarking on separate journeys, but distance is not a hindrance. That first hello may end up with a goodbye, too soon. That first smile might  be replaced by tears  but it is always at the instance of meeting again that erases all the tears and the longing,  and you feel as if you’ve never been separated after all. You might have grown older, matured enough to face life’s challenges but the essence of friendship remains, because it is as timeless as your memories and as precious as your own.

The actual words are not mine, they were just shared by a friend.

Real Friend Test

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest. A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.

A simple friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears..

A simple friend doesn’t know your parents’ first names. A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after they’ve gone to bed. A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems. A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend wonders about your romantic history. A real friend could blackmail you with it.

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument. A real friend calls you after you had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for them. A real friend expects to always be there for you!

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The sun is hiding its face again. It is so dark outside but it is not raining.  Early this morning, I saw a lone sparrow  atop the electric line of Meralco. I wished it was nearer so I could take a photo.  I seldom see those sparrows now. When we still had our avocado tree, I used to hear them sing every morning.  I miss the sounds of the early morning. Just fixed the branches of our Bougainvillea which were  toppled by the winds. One branch is presently flowering.

I harvested Calamansi and Blue Ternatea flowers for our neighbor whose husband died a few days ago. We talked of so many things – about life and dying, our kids, the economy and the events of the past days  during her husband’s wake. I taught her how to cook blue rice and add  few drops of vinegar when cooking rice so it could last for at least day without refrigerating the unused portion.  The small cap of the vinegar will do.

I am waiting for my Blue Ternatea to produce  pods so I could also share them with some friends. The bright blue flowers are nice additions to the garden.

 

 

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You’ve heard of it before more particularly with this app so popular on Facebook where they remind you of the date you’ve been friends with people in your contact list.

But what exactly is the term”friendversary?” It is a slang word which is a combination of friendship and anniversary. Just like what BFF means to some people, best friends forever.  It simply means friendship anniversary. I don’t really mind it when Facebook posts those reminders. I have been friends with some people in my contact list for so long even before Facebook was created.

For more than four decades now, I’ve been friends with three ladies whom I met at the UST Main Library. We were all  student librarians before and were assigned at the same section of the library  which was the Humanities. Thea is now a professed nun, a Franciscan working for the welfare of the Mangyans in Mindoro province. Precy is a successful businesswoman  while Grace migrated to Canada and married a Canadian. We don’t often see each other now but we still get in touch. Precy,  Thea and I are all cancer survivors.

What makes that friendship so special? Some say that the friendship you formed earlier in life is more enduring and more lasting. You have experienced things together during your younger years. You have shared a lot  and it doesn’t really matter that you don’t get to see one another as often as you want. There is that bond that you cannot just  erase.  That kind of friendship that when you see each other, it seems that nothing has changed, you pick up where you left before.  You have made them part of your family. You can grow separately without growing apart.

I always love these words from Henri Nouwen.  This is what real friendship means.

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”

 

 

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Once in a while, our dog Noki shares the limelight…haha!

He  loves staying in the garden while I am weeding or cutting the grass. You won’t believe this but he watches  too when the television is on. He likes to sleep under our dining table. At night he would stay for a while inside but when it’s time for bed I let him out of the door. He is a half-breed Japanese Spitz and a Labrador Retriever,  a great family pet.

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