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Did you watch the Royal wedding of Harry and Meghan?

I watched  the  parade of cars going to the church and when the two exchanged their  vows. In between, I went back and forth to watch the proceedings. What I noticed though was  Meghan’s mom, Doria Ragland  who escorted  Meghan going to the Windsor Castle.

Now and then, the camera would focus on her and you can see the countenance of a proud  and loving mom, a strong woman, a bit shy looking at the camera with tears in her eyes. It clearly shows the love of a mother to her loving child. In any part of the world, when love is celebrated via a wedding we sometimes get teary-eyed. Never mind if it is done in a simple chapel or church or in  the oldest and largest occupied castle in the world.  And it is even more touching when your daughter becomes a real princess. Not everyone dreams of this scenario but every mother dreams of her daughter walking down the aisle  to be wed to a man she loves.

I remember when Nissa got married almost seven years ago. I didn’t actually cry at the wedding but cried a lot when they went on a honeymoon,  then came back to get her things at the house for good.  Gone were the late mornings waking up during weekends and preparing  simple breakfast together. Gone were the days when she would sing non-stop while cleaning the house on weekends. I learned to adjust through time and when she told us that she was on the family way a few months after and when we all watched together the sonogram of our baby Nate inside, I could not really explain what I felt. Joy that we were having a grandson at last and apprehension on the childbirth. Nissa was born premature at only 3.9 lbs. and she was left at the hospital for a month when I came home. The agony of seeing her laboring for almost twenty-four hours only to be told that she would deliver via a C-section.  Nate had sepsis when he was born and like Nissa, he was left at the hospital for more than two weeks. Now we have a healthy, smart and active big boy Nate. He turned five last November.

Watching your child grow, knowing that you raised him/her well is the ultimate  in being a mother.

Mitch Albom in his book For One More Day said it simply: ” But there’s a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where“ yours begin.” 


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Had to wake up early, so many things to do and our garden is a priority.

Pulled weeds at the perimeter wall outside. It only needs some plants now to make it more lovely. I am thinking of snake plants but I still have to look for a place where they sell it. Snake plants are low maintenance, can survive drought and even clean the air when you put it inside your home, in a pot of course.

I have snake plants here but they are of the dwarf variety, I need the ones which could grow higher than a foot.

Snake plants…I need something like these. Image from Wikipedia.

I am overjoyed seeing my bottle gourd rapidly growing and bearing fruits. And there are more flowers than I can count. I took a photo of it early this morning.

Locally known as upo, you could sauté  the  vegetable mixed with ground pork or, come to think of it, sardines. And it is a good side dish for fried fish. Today I harvested another jackfruit. Yesterday, the carpenter got one. I have a few more that I am waiting to ripen.  All the rest could be cooked as veggies.  Some of my eggplants are now flowering.

The great reward of gardening. It just put a smile on my face.

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It seems like I have to reorganize my garden after they’re done removing the Thai bamboo,  installing the steel matting on our fence and  repainting the fence and the steel matting that they will install.

My potted plants are lined up along the wall so everything has to be moved.  Others have rooted in the ground so re-potting is a must too. Busy, busy summer!

Had a general cleaning in my bedroom and changed the sheets and curtains. My gosh, it is so hot but this is that perfect time to clean and re-organize. My garden would probably look “brand new” after this  🙂

Summer is usually a busy month for carpenters  and construction workers. Lot owners choose summer months to have their houses built taking advantage of the days when there is no rain. I had a hard time finding one. His rate is sky-high and  he doesn’t accept payment on a daily basis but chose instead “the pakyawan” where you have to pay a certain amount  until he finishes the scope of work at hand.  “Pakyawan” is more costly than paying the worker on a daily basis but you are assured that they will finish the job.  One thing though, you’ll provide all the materials needed.

I think that when you begin some renovations in the house, there is always a chance that you would have to think of other things that they could do after and it involves more funding…haha!


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Summer is quite different this year. I haven’t experienced this stifling heat before. Humid, no wind, even the  chairs feel hot.

Had to be outside again this morning to buy all the things that the carpenters need tomorrow.  The hardware owner said I could just ride home with her staff when they deliver it. My goodness,  riding on a truck is hot even if the windows are open. I won’t bore you with the details.

I was trying to clean my room of old utility receipts late this afternoon when I saw my old, old journal way back in college. You know those yearnings of a teenager  for someone out of reach. You can write volumes of thoughts , you can write every day about your experiences. you can be a little more dramatic with your words. Teenage life – the days of discovery, the stirrings of first love (or so you thought).  Whoever said that first love never dies must be lying. Mine did when I graduated from college. Absence does not makes the heart grow ponder, sometimes it makes  you forget 🙂

In short, that old, old journal is now in a sack of carpentry debris and old utility bills. I saved some of my writings before during the early years which I copied here at WordPress when  I started blogging.  The rest are just ramblings of a teenager crazy in love….haha!

I am keeping a journal still and I have several journals and blank pages to fill but mostly they are a list of books I have read and still wanting to read, a lot of recipes culled online and through my readings, my monthly budget and total expenses for the year, lovely quotes from books I have read, writings about my life now and gardening of course. Really it is a smorgasbord of  thoughts  and how my life is now. My hard drive is full of Nate’s photos, those that Nissa sent to me via messenger, photos I took  from my  camera phone and my tab. Focusing on the family and enjoying the blissful years of togetherness and hoping that I still could see Nate to be a successful young man  in the future.

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”  – Anne Landers



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What a way to start the week. Yes, it is a busy day today.

I am having my cabinet doors at the dirty kitchen replaced. Some concealed hinges at our cabinets in the bedrooms  were replaced too. Had  an early trip to the hardware store to buy supplies with the carpenter we hired to do the job. Had to arrange an early delivery of ply woods.

Back on 2009, we got flooded and the cabinets at our bedrooms were changed except for two doors which are too heavy because they were made of ply boards. When we had house renovation late that year, our bedroom cabinets were fitted with sliding glass doors. It is a space-saving venture but the glass was so expensive. Anyway, it is more economical than the traditional cabinet doors.

I also inquired how much is one panel of steel matting since our Thai bamboo at the garden need replacement too. It only lasted eight years. Steel matting is more durable and permanent. It has to be attached to our  concrete perimeter fence to make it a little higher but still assured of some air in the process. I am dreaming of having sturdy climbers eventually  for privacy. Could you please recommend a climbing plant which is conducive to our  tropical climate here?  Fellow gardeners, I would appreciate your recommendation. Thank you.

I’ve set  aside reading for a while, using an earphone and listening to music on my cellphone instead.

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They are also dreaming of that “forever” thing which I think  seems quite impossible in today’s world. Let them dream though. Sometimes, life is made of those little things , those seemingly impossible ones but give meaning to what is at hand.

My daughter Nissa and son-in-law Obet stood as cord sponsors to their parents’ 50th wedding anniversary. They marched after the  principal sponsors. It was lovely to see when the main door finally opened and  the bride marched along. My grandson Nate was the ring bearer.

Nissa made the cord personally using swarovski crystals and rice pearls done in ecru and white, the theme of the wedding.  She has made many of this in different designs and colors for their own wedding almost seven years ago and for her close friends.

A good memory lasts, captured in those lovely photographs.

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Yes, I do believe there is forever. Forever in the sense that a married couple is still together when they reach fifty golden years.

This morning, we attended the 5oth  Wedding Anniversary of  Nissa’s parents-in law at the  Malolos Cathedral (Minor Basilica of our Lady of the Immaculate Conception) in Malolos City, Bulacan.

Malolos Cathedral (before the start of the wedding).

It is quite far from our place but we enjoyed the camaraderie and the solemnity of the occasion. Nissa, Obet and Nate are included in the entourage. There was a portion of the program after the wedding when their four kids and the grandchildren were allowed to speak before the bride and the groom and I was touched when Obet, my son-in-law said: “Yes, the goal is to reach fifty years too with  Nissa”. Wow!  I was touched. The official photos are not in yet but we enjoyed a few moments trying the photo booth. Nate was the last to speak and he just said, “We love you both” then shyly gave back the microphone to the emcee.

Nate said while holding the crowns before the photo shoot: ” Mommy wear this.  you are the queen and I am the prince” and Nissa obliged.  Haha, smart kid.

Fifty years together.  My balae  now uses a cane  when he walks. He is quite frail but his wife is still so beautiful  in her mid-seventies. Fifty years of togetherness. It is seldom to see couples nowadays reaching that long married life. Either one is gone or   they are separated or living apart from each other.

Maintaining a relationship is not a walk in the park. Even if you are both matured enough to face each trial and celebrate happy times together, there is always something that sets you apart. When trust, respect and loyalty are gone, love slowly dies too.  Love does not walk away but people do.

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