We are a big clan.
My paternal grandfather had fifteen kids in all and dad was second to the oldest among Tatay’s kids (we called our paternal grandfather Tatay and all the rest of his other siblings except my lone aunt who we called Nanang). The first seven were during the first marriage and the second eight kids with Tatay’s second wife. I never knew my paternal grandmother. She died giving birth to their youngest, their seventh child who grew up with speech defect and cannot speak well. One of them told me that I look like her, speak like her and even got her mannerism. Maybe that was why I was so close to them when they were alive. Let’s just say I was one of their favorite nieces. They are all gone now except the youngest who is now around eighty years old.
When Tatay married again, they had eight kids and the youngest is now as old as I am. I remember Dad telling me that his only sister used to take care of her half-siblings. My two aunts and an uncle live in Spain with their families and the youngest is married to a Japanese and has lived in Japan for more than three decades now.
I have close to about fifty first cousins and so many nephews and nieces with their own families now. Imagine having so many grandchildren with cousins. I haven’t met almost half of them except seeing them in pictures. Last February 2011, my aunts and uncles organized a family reunion and it was an amazing attendance with around a hundred family members including their wives and husbands. I was not able to attend though because of health problems.
When my aunts and I meet, we usually talk about our family tree. We remember those days when Tatay was still alive and my brothers and I would visit them in their home in another barangay in the province. We remember those days when Tatay was so active in Church. He was a choir member and a Legion of Mary member too. And I remember those days when we would visit their farm and before we go home, our bags are laden with fresh veggies and some fruits.
Though we are far from each other, we get by through Facebook messenger and occasional texts and calls. We are connected. We may not often see each other but the bond is there.
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