It’s a lovely morning for a swim but don’t you think it’s cold with all that fog around? Thanks Lilet for sharing, I am really hoping to visit this place one of these days.
The great Albay adventure….
Posted in Close to Nature, Closer to God, life, Philippines, tagged Albay Province, Close to Nature, Closer to God, life, Philippines, photography on January 24, 2012| Leave a Comment »
It’s a lovely morning for a swim but don’t you think it’s cold with all that fog around? Thanks Lilet for sharing, I am really hoping to visit this place one of these days.
The great Albay adventure….
Posted in arguments, fidelity, life, poems, tagged family relationship, life, literature and Fiction, poem on January 24, 2012| Leave a Comment »
When you say:
Can’t you do that for once?
you might actually mean:
– I am tired of your irresponsibility
– I resent telling you things
– I don’t like myself for having to remind you.
When you say:
You don’t really care that much, do you?
you might actually mean:
– it hurts that you care so little
– please care more!
– it hurts me that we communicate like strangers
– I am waiting for you to woo me again
to love me,
for me to be special to you.
Whey you say:
I am so tired of life!
you might actually mean:
– our life has lost its real intensity
– please do something!
– we have become what we did not want to become
– I don’t want to try to convince you any more
that our life centres too much around working,
eating and TV.
When you say:
I can’t stand you when you’re like that!
you might actually mean:
– I feel threatened by you
– can’t you see that I lack all self-respect
and all sense of self-worth
– I just don’t know how to answer you
– I don’t like myself when you bring the worst
out in me
– please don’t play that role
because I can see right through it.
When you say:
You always/never do that!
you might actually mean:
– I am frustrated that neither of us
can really listen to the other
– your coolness bothers me
– please react
I am as aggressive as I can be
– I feel ignored and want to communicate with you.
I know that we use words to hide, to hit, to run away:
words are smoke-screens and security-builders;
words are bait to be swallowed
by the unsuspecting;
words are arm-twisters and weakening agents;
words are shots, barbs and hooks;
words are mirrors of the soul;
words are cries for help;
words are words and so much more.
Because I want to know you,
and to communicate with you,
I will be open to what lies beyond your words.
– lifted from the book A Growing Love (Meditations
on Marriage and Commitment) by Ulrich Schaffer
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