Archive for May 13th, 2009

Sure, texting is a tad way to reach people that easily – as long as the signal is okay, you have enough load (if you are using a prepaid account) and you are busy  to  call the person you want to talk too. Texting can make or break your day depending on how creative or imaginative the other texter is or how annoying sometimes when you receive a text message which is not to your liking.  Herein are some of the things I really hate about texting: 

1.  Hu U – receiving a text with a message like this is not just annoying,it defies good manners. You can ask politely enough without resorting to a three-letter question which you can’t even qualify if it is Tagalog or not.

2. K – How much does it take texting the whole word “okey” or okay” than just plainly sending K? Are you trying to be in or what?

3. Dito na me – who me? This is even more unacceptable than the K word, if there’s such a thing. Either you speak straight Tagalog or plain simple English.

4. Wer na u? – same thing as number three. It is obnoxious.

5. Receiving chain texts, like a prayer,  asking you to send them to at least 10 or 15 people, otherwise something happens if you don’t. Receiving grace from above is unconditional.Goodness, are you playing God?  I could appreciate just a short and simple prayer or a nice quote than having this one in my message inbox.

6. Too much abbreviated words – it’s beginning to look like English is a mangled language. It’s okay to substitute 4 for “for” or d for “the” but deliberately misspelling the word even if there is just one letter to insert to correct it is plain laziness for me.

7. Kol me, kol kita – another abused term in texting. You just have to add another letter to correct it to “call”. Have they never learned that  they allow 160 characters  in one “send” and it  costs  one peso just the same?

8. Just like in No. 5, receiving texts from people whom you don’t know from Eve and asking you to forward the same message to your network of friends. Unless it is a “quotable quote” again and the receiver would even thank you back for forwarding it, why should you?

9.  Just plain guessing about your number and when you politely respond, they would text you back, “pwede ba kitang ka-text mate” or something to that effect.

10. Receiving an unknown call or texts in the middle of the night when you are about to sleep only to inform you there is such and such on such and such  a date. Can’t it wait till tomorrow? I need to have my beauty rest. hehe..

Honestly, I  always do the texting the old-fashioned way, full words, Tagalog  if Tagalog  and English when I’m in the mood. I like receiving inspirational messages first thing in the morning , because sometimes I do it too, send quotes to my close friends as my good deed for the day.  I remember now, I have these two or three former office mates and a fellow carpool rider before, the usual thing is, you ask how the person is after a few months of not hearing from him/her but these people start the night or day just forwarding annoying chain texts which I never bother to forward anyway. How about just saying, kumusta ka na or how are you? Don’t you think it would make the recipient more responsive to your text?

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What are those unseen shadows
Gnawing at me like tentacles?

Grief –
Shock, anger, pain?
Or am I just denying myself
and believing you are still around?

“Who is this girl?”, you asked
Struggling vainly to remember my name
But the years are slowly showing through
I didn’t mind really,
That you can’t remember me
But I was silently crying inside.

I watched your gnarled hands counting the threads
Repeatedly, on and on and I asked myself
“What could she be thinking?”
Are you trying to remember too?
The days and years gone?

Little did we know that morning that God
Was going to call you home
Caught unprepared, but we thought we were
When you went, we didn’t want to let  you go.
Part of us went with you.

I didn’t know
That a month ago would be
The last time I’ll  see you smile
We promised to come back this summer
And take you to Anawangin
To see the sunrise!

You left us with warm memories
Something we will treasure for always!
The link may be broken
But it would be whole again
As God calls us one by one
To welcome us back home.

Goodbye Nanay,
Go in peace with God!

(gosh, I want to have a good cry).

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bobicA box of crayons, a pocketful of assorted unsharpened pencils, a half-inch thick  coloring book – what more do you need to pass the time away?

A few months ago, I got the chance again to go home and bond with my  smart, inquisitive and hyperactive five-year old niece Bobic. No picture-taking this time because I didn’t bring my camera with me but we agreed to spend an hour or two after dinner to go over her lessons and color her brand new book. I have nearly forgotten how relaxing, how stress-free and artistic one feels when you are so engrossed in making a dull picture come to life by blending different shades and making  it colorful and beautiful in the eyes of a five-year old child. She was so lavish with her praises when we finished two pages of the book. Lesson No. 1 – simple things mean a lot to a child.

She made me go with her and her Mama to their school one afternoon so I could meet her teacher whom she calls Miss Melanie. She literally dragged me by the hand and introduced me by saying, “teacher, si Tita Arlene”. Well, that afternoon I learned my second lesson from her, kids shine when they are surrounded by their family and loved ones.  I was pleasantly surprised when my brother told me that she could recall every word and sentence in her two short-story books entitled Ang Tikbalang Kung Kabilugan ng Buwan and Mariang Alimango. Through frequent readings and story-telling before she goes to sleep, she was able to memorize every page of the two books. True enough, she even knows the English version although she could not pronounce the words right, she does not know yet how to read that much. Lesson No. 3 – play it by ear and it gets easy the second and third time around.

She keeps a piggy bank because her Papa told her that it would take a lot of money for her to become a doctor so she started asking for coins every time she gets the chance. She is so steadfast in saying that she will be a doctor someday and will treat every one in the family. I was impressed – the wisdom of a child.

And how I wish life is that simple!  How I wish that sometimes, we could see things through the eyes of a child.

Coloring books and crayons – try holding them some time and forget about your worries even just for a little while.

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Last week, I wrote to Francis J. Kong and asked permission to link his site to my blogs.  Oh boy, he answered my email. I blogged about him a few days ago, Meet Francis J. Kong, My Idol.


I just have to buy his book, The Early Bird Catches the Worm But the Second Mouse Gets the Cheese. And so this afternoon, we all went to Power Books.  A slim volume at 131 pages but packed with words of wisdom and lovely anecdotes that you can’t simply put  down.  It’s a bit pricey though at P410.00. It’s a Mother’s Day gift to myself, haha, so the price is justified.  He has published several other books like Only the Real Matters, Life’s Work, 3 Little Words, Just When You think You Can’t Do It…Do It, Why Don’t You Grow Up Dad?, and the four-volume, One Day At A Time. I took a glimpse of them all, after all, reading is free at Power Books, you can even finish one without buying it.  How cool is that?  And to give you a glimpse of what is on the cover, I am quoting them here.

Remember this:

If you can start the day without caffeine or pep pills,
If you can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,
If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,
if you can eat the same food everyday and be grateful for it,
If you can understand when loved ones are too busy to give you time,
If you can overlook when people take things out on you
When through no fault of yours, something goes wrong,
If you can take criticism and blame without resentment
if you can face the world without lies and deceit,
If you can conquer tension without medical help
if you can relax without liquor,
If you can sleep without the aid of drugs,
Then, you are almost as good as your dog!

P.S. Yes, there certainly are a lot of things a dog can do without. And so can you!

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For the past several years, I’ve always read the Philippine Star, mostly on Saturdays and Sundays.  It’s one of my favorite weekend reads.  Either I catch the news online or buy a copy from our neighborhood pan de sal vendor who is enterprising enough to supply newspapers everyday to his pan de sal suki. The funny thing is, I seldom start the day reading the headlines, sometimes they can get quite depressing so I skip the pages and go to my favorites, the Lifestyle Section where I always look for Lucy’s articles  on Love Lucy every Sunday and Barbara Gonzales’ Second Wind every Saturday.  Features Section comes next and before I’m through with the editorial pages, I turn to the Business Section and scan the closing prices of stocks, and look for my favorite articles by Francis  J. Kong, Business Matters ( Beyond the Bottom Line).  Take note, there is always that  J in his name.

Francis J. Kong – a noted writer, author, broadcaster, motivational and inspirational speaker.  Check this out, http://franciskong.com/about/. I always look forward to his once-a-week guesting at Umagang Kay Ganda, a regular morning show of ABS CBN. Last night, I wrote him a short note asking permission if I could link his site here and to my other blogs. I was surprised to find that he personally answers e-mails. Wow! it might be short but it made me admire him all the more.

By all means arlene,
I would be very honored.

On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 7:15 PM, franciskong@businessmatters.org

I’ve subscribed to his previous articles on Philippines Star and here are some of his inspiring quotes:


If you like the above articles, you can log on to Philippine Star archives for Mr. Francis J. Kongs writings.

By the way, he has published several books and I intend to buy The Early Bird Catches the Worm soon.

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